Sharing a Moment Through the Window

While visiting a Sister in our Care Center the other evening, I was struck by something I witnessed which seemed so very natural.

My friend was engaging through her window with a visitor and his dog as they made their way to visit, presumably a loved one, at our neighbour - St. Joseph’s Hospice of London. Their exchange was warm and one that you would give to someone you had formed a relationship with – even though it was through the window! The dog came up to her window looking quite comfortable at seeing her standing there – almost waiting for his arrival at her window on their visits at least twice each day.

I was struck by her connection made with this stranger – coming to stand beside his loved one, knowing perhaps that this might be the last visit for him and his canine companion. It seemed to me that this stopping point or a place of pause might be to give him courage to go forward, not really knowing what awaited him once inside.

Reflecting on this encounter, I realized that outreach happens quite simply through the window of our home. Meaningful gestures of support and encouragement offered to individuals on their way into Hospice.

A noticeable gesture of intimacy expressed by both the visitor and the Sister without a word being spoken.

-Sister Ann MacDonald, CSJ

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June 8: Best Friends Day

In Canadian society, almost every day of the year has some special event to which it is attached.  Most Canadians know that Christmas is on December 25th and that Remembrance Day occurs on November 11th but how many people know that there’s a whole day set aside to highlight best friends.  The famous British author, literary scholar and theologian C.S. Lewis gives gravitas to the topic, writing,

“Friendship is the greatest of worldly goods; certainly, to me, it is the chief happiness of life”.

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Friendship has been an innate part of life since the dawn of time.  What is this urge that draws us together in love and support?  How am I attracted to some people more readily than others? With whom do I feel more comfortable and at ease?

My little grandniece is only two years old and often walks to the nearby daycare building with a little neighbour boy and his father.  One day, upon returning home she announced, “Luke is my best friend”!  How was she able to arrive at this fact at such an early age?

When I was in grade four, a group of students were bused about seven miles to augment another school that had very few students.  At recess, on the first day of school, I noticed a little blonde grade-three girl hesitating as we raced to the school yard.  I gingerly approached her and asked if she’d like to come and play.  She shyly nodded her head, took my hand and in no time, we became best friends.  Although our entrance into adulthood and a myriad of life changes drew us apart for several decades, in our later years, we continue to connect and know that the bond remains.

Research points out that there are many levels of friendship.  During school years, students often bond as friends in groups.  These bonds frequently change as late teens proceed to post-secondary education and make new friends.  Next comes career opportunities, marriage etc. where other friendships develop or are merely casual, yet enjoyable.

It is a fact that if we have one or two BEST friends in life, we are considered fortunate.  These are the ones with whom we can be ourselves and unburden our hearts.  They are with us throughout all the vicissitudes of life.  The relationship of best friends is mutual and strong but never clingy or overbearing.  Of course, it is right to have one day a year to pause and thank God for the amazing gift of friendship. Celebrate June 8th by connecting with your best friend!

 -Sister Jean Moylan, csj

Summer Reading With a Disclaimer

Being a reading addict, as I was once described by a friend, I would like to introduce you to Iona Whishaw. She’s my recently discovered Canadian author, born in Kimberly, BC.  Due to her father’s geological work, she grew up in a variety of places including Mexico, Central America, and the US. Her daily life in Kootenay Lake, BC most influenced her writing of the Lane Winslow Mystery Series which began with the engaging novel, A Killer at King’s Cove.

I was first introduced to Iona Whishaw by the audiobook membership service, Audible.  The service describes the novel, A Killer at King’s Cove, as “a smart and enchanting postwar mystery that will appeal to fans of the Maisie Dobbs”. Ms. Dobbs is the main character in Winspear’s series set between WWI and WWII. Earlier, I became hooked on reading her novels and thoroughly enjoyed all seventeen of them which chronicled the life and escapades of Maisie Dobbs.

The positive comparison between Winspear’s and Whishaw’s series was all the enticement I needed to begin the Lane Winslow Mystery Series.  I’m now awaiting the arrival of my purchased used copy of Framed in Fire, ninth of the series of ten, in the Lane Winslow Mystery Series. What will Jane Winslow, this former ex British intelligence officer next encounter?

 Should you be enticed to begin the Jane Winslow or Maisie Dobbs series of novels, I offer you a disclaimer. There is a real possibility of becoming hooked on the whole series. Without hesitation, I advise you to chance it. Happy summer reading!

-Sister Nancy Wales, csj