Small Things, Great Outcomes in a Time of Pandemic

The renowned Dutch artist, Vincent Van Gogh, claimed that “Great things are done by a series of small things brought together.” This week we were reminded of that truth on hearing of the death of Captain Sir Tom Moore whose image leapt onto the “global stage” and into the hearts of the world, as with his “walker”, he did laps of his garden at his home in England. Perhaps the person most surprised by his sudden fame was Captain Moore himself! With a challenge set by his family, Captain Moore took to walking 100 laps of his garden before his 100th birthday in order to try to raise 1000.00 pounds sterling to support front-line care workers in the National Health System during the challenging days of the pandemic. In the event, by his centenary celebrations, Captain Moore raised an astounding 32 million pounds for the cause contributed by people around the globe. Before beginning his venture Captain Moore had said, “one small soul like me won’t make much difference.” How wrong he was. The difference he made was phenomenal and not simply in terms of the monetary outcome but perhaps most of all by the witness he was to all of us of the reality that small things truly matter.

How many of us, I wonder, have asked a question similar to that expressed by Captain Moore, “What can I do – I can’t make any difference in these challenging Covid days?” We may feel overwhelmed in these times, sure that we have little to offer in the context of so many restrictions, fears and uncertainties. Yet, perhaps one of the greatest contributions we can make is to embrace the small things of life and let them challenge us to move beyond despair and apathy to reach out to others and, in turn, to be freed of inertia and personal despondency. We can make a difference.

St. Thérèse de Lisieux

Of course, Captain Moore is a contemporary example of what has been understood spiritually throughout the centuries. Possibly, one of the most well-known advocates of the promise of small things was St. Thérèse de Lisieux, the nineteenth-century Carmelite nun, who within the confines of a cloistered religious community in France, came to the realization that in the end what truly matters is doing the small things well.  Thérèse’s impact on the world beyond her physical boundaries was and continues to be, immense. Hers was a commitment to the chores and to the people we encounter in the humdrum moments of our lives. She reminded us that “nothing is small in the eyes of God” and she admonished us to “do all that you do with love.” Similarly, this idea is found in many great spiritual traditions. American Rabbi, Berel Wein, for example, points out that, “in truth, it is the small things that define us.” The Torah, he says, is seemingly pre-occupied with the small things in life and he concludes that “great ideas are only communicated through small things, everyday behaviours, the mitzvoth of life.” Only through fidelity to small acts does the great become realized.” Likewise, in the Islamic tradition, it’s said that the prophet Mohammad claimed that the deeds most pleasing to God are the regular constant deeds even though they may be very small. One also senses that in the mindfulness of the Buddhist tradition is the reverence for the small things of life. Regardless of one’s values or faith, fidelity to the small things becomes the means of sharing love, care, and positive energy not only in our local spaces but beyond into our communities and the world and we may never know the impact.

“nothing is small in the eyes of God”

The small things matter and perhaps especially so in the place in which we find ourselves today. This time of pandemic is a time when perhaps all people, no matter how strong, are struggling. Some with feelings of despondency, fear, loneliness, hopelessness, a sense of inadequacy, mental health challenges, sickness and grief. In this context, small things truly matter. At a personal level committing to the regularities of daily living keeps us engaged and balanced, lifted up. Even if we are feeling overwhelmed and unable to do anything, the reality is we can! A friend of mine, a psychiatric nurse, the late Sister Angela Cooling, OSA, once said to me very wisely, “always remember there is nothing about which something can’t be done”! What are some small  “somethings” we might consider in this time?

We can always undertake acts of kindness, affirmation, and patience in our homes and communities. Beyond our homes, these ‘’acts” might be practised through a phone call, a card or letter, a zoom call. Perhaps those of us who are able to do grocery shopping can think of helping another who is unable to do so or maybe we can purchase a small treat to deliver to another person. At the beginning of the pandemic, I read of two inspirational high school students, “regular boys” who on seeing an elderly man struggling at a supermarket, spent all their own money on buying paper bags and small items they thought older people may appreciate and then with great care in terms of infection prevention, delivered these gifts around their neighbourhood. The joy they brought to many is incalculable.

What about forming an on-line group of those who are willing to write notes to residents of long term care facilities or jails or notes of affirmation and gratitude for front-line workers? We might gather our communities together on-line to share the reading of a book to lift spirits and for personal growth or to share together conversation involving those who may not normally be in our circle or who cannot reach out for help and community. Other groups might take up necessary advocacy these days. Perhaps, like Captain Moore, we can think of a small way to raise funds to help others. Like his, our small acts can have great outcomes. Significantly, we can always pray for healing and hope together online or personally. Using our creativity there are multitudes of possibilities for those small things we can still do until the “clouds of our day” lift. Small things matter. Together let’s embrace them with love and let’s share them to accelerate the heartbeat of care in our world today. With Mother (St.) Teresa of Calcutta may we know that “There are no great things, only small things done with great love.”

-Sister Mary Rowell, CSJ

This is Us

“This is Us” is currently a popular TV series. It is also a popular LIFE series at our residence in London, Ontario, Canada where approximately 80 women - Sisters of St. Joseph, share life.

Recently, an invitation was given to anyone to be part of putting together a beautiful puzzle of a male and female cardinal.  There they were, all 500 pieces, with uniquely odd-shaped pieces waiting to be crafted into a beautiful picture as seen here.

Beside the pieces, was the following invitation:

“When a red cardinal appears, the spiritual meaning is that it is a symbol of hope in God, especially in times of stress and despair, to encourage hope and persistence.

This puzzle, in the process of completing it, is meant to be a reminder of the importance of us living together, helping each other to put together, the pieces of our lives, as we journey through this pandemic. Some pieces will fit, some will not, but will be used when others fit into the picture.

WELCOME TO BEING A CO-CREATOR OF THE FINISHED PRODUCT!! 😊”

After about three weeks, the beautiful symbol was realized and the co-creators were asked to describe their experience of being in this very simple process and how it was similar to living in community.

These were the various responses:

-we are all interested in the same thing

-you learn about the other persons who help to put it together

- it is a small welcome recess in the day

-we support each other in various ways, as we do in community

-in working together, we experience being with somebody

-I am happy to find pieces that fit

-it is heartening to see together, the end product coming to completion

-like the odd-shaped puzzle pieces, so are we, as the diverse pieces of our life come together

-various personalities come together and we appreciate the gift of accommodating at times and leading at other times.”

-we are creating something new and enjoying doing it

-we are making connections on many levels

-it captivates one’s ability to attentively see the unfolding of something beautiful

-look at a piece, then look at the WHOLE to see where it fits

Through the lens of “puzzle-making”, we can look at this world in the political upheaval in the U.S. especially and hope that better hearts will prevail to bring about a picture of harmony and collaboration.

Looking through this same lens, we can hope that in our lives together, we can create a microcosm of a loving and compassionate entity that will spill out into a world so desperately in need of compassionate love.

Amanda Gordon, the poet laureate of the U.S. presidential Inauguration reminds us:

“For there is always light, if only we’re brave enough to see it.

If only we’re brave enough to be it.

If we are brave enough to put the pieces of the puzzle together, we CAN collaboratively co-create a beautiful world.  WE CAN BE THE LIGHT.

-Sister Kathleen Lichti (and several other “puzzle solvers”)

All Sorts out of Sorts

Synchronicity fascinates me. Recently, one of my friends was gripped by a sense of malaise. I am sure you agree with me that this is something many of us experience off and on in varying degrees during these protracted weeks and months of the pandemic.  While my friend and I were chatting about the overall impact the pandemic has on our psyche and spirits, she chuckled and said, “All sorts feel out of sorts.”  Well, and then she suggested I’d write a reflection about all sorts being out of sorts, a delightful play on the licorice brand name Allsorts. I laughed and suggested she write about being out of sorts since she had just had a taste of it. Herein lies the synchronicity, shortly after our conversation I had my own taste of feeling out of sorts. 

Probably none of us needs to turn to a dictionary to learn what it means to be out of sorts, still, I did. According to the Collins Dictionary when you are in that state, “you feel slightly unwell, upset, or annoyed.” It has been my experience that it is all these feelings mixed together.  Feeling out of sorts is all sorts of feelings layered on top of each other just like some of those Allsorts liquorice pieces.

In his book, Molloy, Samuel Beckett has his protagonist express feeling out of sorts like this, “I was out of sorts.  They are deep, my sorts, a deep ditch, and I am not often out of them.” Phrasing the state of being out of sorts like that sounds like the crème de la crème expression about what many of us experience these days. During these dark days, an unsettling mood can easily invade us. It is not unusual that we can find ourselves in a depressed mood during this pandemic without knowing exactly where it comes from and the degree of such moods can vary from person to person, from situation to situation. How deep are the ditches of some of your pandemic induced ‘sorts’?

““I am offering you life or death . . . Choose life. (Deuteronomy 30:19)”

When we have the courage, the gumption, one step at a time, to extricate ourselves from those dark moods, we choose to live instead of remaining in the dark ditch. The longer we remain in the ditch, the harder it tends to be to get out of it. No, it is not easy.  No, it is not instant. By relying on our life experience, on support from those we trust, and the grace of God we can learn bit by bit how to extricate ourselves ever more easily from our ‘deep sorts [that] deep ditch.’ Over the years, I have often held onto these words of Scripture, “I am offering you life or death . . . Choose life. (Deuteronomy 30:19). Perhaps you also have a Scripture quote or a mantra that helps you, offering you a lifeline when you are out of sorts, in one of those dark moods.

Henri Nouwen, a man who had his struggles with being out of sorts, believed, “One aspect of choosing life is choosing joy. Joy is life-giving but sadness brings death. A sad heart is a heart in which something is dying. A joyful heart is a heart in which something new is being born.” (You Are the Beloved: Daily Meditations for Spiritual Living)

During this pandemic, when so many people are experiencing such terrible, devastating suffering you can be forgiven for thinking it is absurd for me to try to suggest we find joy while we are out of sorts, in a dark mood.  True enough.  Yet, we always do have a choice.  Leaning on each other, I find so often is the only way forward. Supporting one another, encouraging one other, finding strength in each other, holding each other in prayer are some of the best ways forward during this pandemic. Pope Francis expresses this stance, such solidarity in these words, “The Covid-19 pandemic has revealed that all of us, fragile and disoriented, are in the same boat. All of us are called to row together [since] no one reaches salvation by themselves.” (Vatican News: World Day of Peace Message, Oct. 20, 2020)

To strengthen us, especially during our darkest days, God promised to, “give us a new heart and put a new spirit in us.” (Ezekiel 36:26) Even when we are out of sorts during this pandemic, may we trust, with the grace of perseverance, to live in the hope of better days to come. We do have a choice. We can choose life and joy rather than feel like victims of being out of sorts.

-Sister Magdalena Vogt, cps

Creativity in the time of Covid

As COVID -19 cases increase in London, restrictions for those of us living in our residence have curtailed normal activities such as visiting, going to stores, and having close proximity to each other.  We have reverted to “phase two” conditions which seem even more challenging this second time around.  Yet we seem to have accepted our reality and are rising to the challenge of keeping our residence free of the virus. The September 28 issue of The Globe and Mail contains an article by Wency Leung which describes research showing that “Playfulness may help adults improve their mood and lessen depressive symptoms, among other perks . . .” 

One of our members described the pleasure she felt in seeing several sisters at different tables playing various games. Signs of creativity are emerging.  Card games and board games for two players are found on the internet and taught to others. Borrowing, buying, trading, and discussing books has increased significantly. Conversations about dealing with restrictions are more humorous, less dismal.  Seating at tables is limited to two persons so the dedicated card players have been using the internet to find new card games which they teach to others. There are people playing various forms of solitaire for two players, in addition to kings on the corner, spite and malice, thirteen, euchre, pepper, thirteen, golf and cribbage.  Board games are more frequent and varied. Walks in the neighbourhood, or in our hallways seem ongoing. Creativity abounds and is particularly present in our prayers together.  We are more aware of political, social, and environmental issues in our neighbourhood and in the world. Our community prayers reflect our increasing creativity and the concerns for the good of all creation – our common home.

Play is creative, and creativity has an imaginative quality that expands our minds, bestows energy, and lifts our minds from despondency to hope.   With hope and faith, we actively work to make our world a better place.

- Sister Pat McKeon, CSJ

What Kind of Tomorrow Do we Want?

With September just ahead of us, I hear a lot of conversation that expresses our longing to return to some kind of “normal”.  Usually, shortly after that, I hear other talk wondering what the new normal is going to look like.  And at the same time we are witnessing the struggle all of us, governments included, wondering what kind of choices are before us. 

We have all been impacted by this pandemic.  But we have never before in our lifetime had the opportunity to make real substantial change in our programs, our economics, and our social lives.  The kind of change needed affecting jobs, education, investment, health care, etc. are not minor things that just tinkering around the edges of policy can fix.  We need changes to lift everyone to a place where they can participate in their communities using the abilities, and creativity of everyone.  That means acknowledging the inequities around us.

On our social media platforms – Twitter and Facebook - we are posting ideas encouraging all of us to talk with others suggesting ideas about creating a society that allows all of us to use and enjoy the goods and services in our towns, cities, and beyond.  Talk with your MPs or MPPs, or city Councillors.  And talk with your neighbours.  The magnitude of these changes will not be easy, but we will never again have an opportunity like now to reshape the communities that can include all of us.  Often the best ideas begin with the ordinary and casual conversations with those around us.  Be curious about what others are thinking, and ask questions of why, or how.  Be curious and not certain – all change begins with curious questions.  Let’s not wait to begin these conversations!

- Joan Atkinson, CSJ